Last week, I touched on this point during the start of our Finding Your Right Work class. When you're stuck, it's not a good feeling...especially if you've been feeling stuck for months, or even years.
One of the most challenging things about being stuck is feeling like there's no way out. So what do you do?
First, I encourage you to breathe, and be assured that there is a way forward. Next, take a step back to look at the big picture. How you do that is by asking this simple but deep laser-focused question:
- What is stopping you from moving forward?
Why is this a deep question? Because asking yourself this question brings an awareness to your mind of the barriers in your way.
When I work with clients one-on-one, I not only ask them this question once, but I keep asking it over and over again until we exhaust their answers. You see, theres' usually more than one thing getting in your way. When you start laying it all out, you begin to see what your next steps are.
For example, one client answered the question by saying that what was stopping her was that she wasn't clear where she was headed, that she didn't know what kind of job she really wanted. After she realized this, she knew that her next step was to explore her interests and skills, and to figure out where she wanted to be of service.
So here's your coaching question for the week:
- Think of an area of your life where you want to experience something, but haven't yet. Now ask yourself: What is stopping you from moving forward?
Take some time to answer this question over and over again until you can't think of any more answers. And here's a bonus tip: Have a friend ask you this question over and over. There's something about having someone else asking you this question that evokes even more answers than you might have imagined.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Leave a comment and we can start a discussion.