The other day, I was coaching a client about his intentions for 2015. He burst with enthusiasm as he talked about greater possibilities in his work, his health and his finding a loving relationship in the coming year. He was gung-ho and ready to take action.
We breathed it all in. (Take a breath.) And then I asked him this question:
You see, saying "no" is just as important as saying "yes." When you say "no" to something, you create a physical and energetic void in your life, making room for the "yes" that you desire.
Figuring out where to say "no" in your life can be tough because saying no to doing things you've regularly done challenges you to step out of your comfort zone. Saying no forces you to look at what hasn't been serving you and making a decision to let it go. Saying no honors the place in you that says you are a magnificent being and that you are willing to make room for that magnificence.
You can take baby steps if this makes it easier. For example, my client decided that he would say no to bringing junk food into the house. He could eat it outside his home, but he wouldn't buy it or bring it into his home. Another client shared that, for a week, she would say no to negative talk. She wanted to be more positive in her life, and she became mindful of the ways she talked with others and even to herself.
So here's your coaching assignment for the week:
- As you think about creating a life and a world that your heart desires, what can you say "no" to? What ideas, beliefs, habits, and things do you need to release in order to make room for your good?
Let's make our saying "no" a supportive community effort. Post and leave a comment below with what you are saying "no" to and we'll all cheer each other on. It takes courage to say "no" to things in your life that you've become accustomed to.
Here's to your continuing unfoldment in your becoming more of the magnificent being that you are!