reflecting on 2020: What surprised you?

​(Update in 2020: I wrote this post originally in 2018 and have now included a video to reference all that has happened this past year, although the content in this article is still relevant. I’ve also created a new course launching in January 2021 that incorporates these questions and moves into visioning your best life for the new year. You can read more about that course by clicking here.)

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With this year drawing to a close, there’s a natural tendency to reflect on all that has happened this past year. As part of my own yearly practice, I ask myself a set of questions that help me to honor and celebrate the past year.

(This article, and the three following ones I will share with you, contain these very questions I ask myself at the end of every year. I encourage you to join me by setting aside some time every week to contemplate and journal your answers to these questions.)

Here’s one of the key questions:

As you reflect back on this past year, what surprised you?

You probably started off this past January with a set of intentions and knowing that certain things would happen.

Maybe you had a particular goal to accomplish. Perhaps you had a travel destination planned.

As usually happens, though, surprises emerge.

Unplanned events, major upsets, significant delights…all of these are elements in the cycle of Life itself. So…what surprised you?

There are a few different ways to reflect on your surprises. One way is to do a chronological review.

Bring your mind back to January and recollect the events that happened in your life. Then move to February and so on. You can look through your calendar as you do this if you need some help remembering all the things that happened.

Another way to contemplate your surprises during this past year is to examine the different areas of your life.

These include: love, relationships, career, home, creative expression, wealth, finances, health, spirituality, service, community, travel, self-care, education, politics, world affairs, and many others. You can make a diagram of these words and see what happened in each of these areas of life.

As you reflect on all the surprises that showed up for you this past year, I invite you to dig a little deeper and answer these questions:
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• How did you respond to these surprises? The point here is not to judge, but to bring a greater awareness to how you respond when the unexpected shows up.
• What gifts or lessons are you seeing within these surprises?

Surprises are one of the great reminders that Life unfolds in ways that you might not imagine.

There are infinite possibilities always revealing.

Lastly, see if you can uncover a sense of gratitude for these surprises, particularly for those surprises that may not feel so good.

If anything, the “not-so-good” surprises create an opening for you to respond and to show up in a greater, more loving way.

For the next three weeks, I’ll share other questions that will help you to reflect on this past year. If you can, please save your responses and recollections because we’ll be building upon what you came up with here.
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Abundant Blessings and Namaste.